著名心理学家阿德勒曾说过：“幸福的童年治愈一生，不幸的童年用一生治愈” 不过无论我们的童年是否幸福，我们都在跟过去的自己和解，并且长成今天的大人。即便心中仍然住着“自己的小朋友”，但是现在的我们却有自己这个大人保护了，不再是一个人。全文

1、自恋型人格 2、表演型人格 3、偏执型人格 4、强迫型人格 5、回避型人格 6、边缘型人格 7、依赖型人格 8、抑郁型人格 9、反社会型人格 了解对方人格之后才知道，你不是在跟ta谈恋爱，而是在跟ta背后的人格恋爱。全文

小时候，我们与所有人的人际关系都来自于我们与妈妈的关系。 长大后，我们与所有人的关系都来自于我们与自己的关系。 想要处理好亲密关系，先处理好自己与自己的关系，处理好自己最亲密的亲子关系（原生家庭）全文

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY. 当我真正开始爱自己，我才意识到，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨，仅仅是在提醒，我的生活背离了真实的自己。今日，我明白，这叫做「真实」。 As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it RESPECT. 当我真正开始爱自己，我才懂得，当我将自己的意愿强加于人时，是多么的冒犯无礼，即使那时我知晓时机尚未成熟，那个人也并未做好准备，即便那个人就是我自己。今日我明白这叫做「尊重」。 As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it MATURITY. 当我开始真正爱自己，我不再苛求不一样的人生，我明白任何发生在我身边的事，都是对我成长的邀约。而今，我称之为「成熟」。 As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm. Today I 全文